by Abigail Van Buren
DEAR ABBY: half a year ago, i obtained right straight right back in contact with a youth buddy whom married at 17 and moved away. She’s got plenty of family members drama, a lot of it due to her alcoholism (which she claims is outcome of PTSD).
Recently, she said We have hurt her and I also’m an awful buddy because since we have reconnected, I have never ever once asked her about her past as well as the ordeals she actually is experienced. Abby, she covers by by herself constantly. We never ever thought it had been required to ask her in regards to the past because she never ever shuts up about this. I’ve attempted to be good listener, but I do not think she’s made the life choices that are best, and I also do not wish to confront her with my views as to how she’s got all messed up her life.
I do not concern individuals about their past, truthfully. Personally I think when they wish to talk about it, they are going to carry it up by themselves. Ended up being we incorrect for not asking her to dredge it? Now she will not even speak to me personally. — FRIENDLESS IN FLORIDA
DEAR FRIENDLESS: Be grateful the lady not talks for you. You have got done absolutely absolutely absolutely nothing incorrect. Anyone you describe has to feel wronged and start to become the main focus of the conversations, which if you ask me appears self-centered. Continue reading Friend Takes Offense at Never Being Inquired About Her Past